What is missing from lax, permissive and neglectful parenting styles
Parental monitoring
qualities of an enmeshed parenting style
parents see an unusually large number of minor behaviors as problematic and they use ineffective authoritarian parenting strategies to deal w the child. the parent uses verbal threats but fails to back them up and is constantly showing disapproval
qualities of a lax parenting style
these parents are not sufficiently attuned to what constitutes problematic or antisocial behavior and allows bad behaviors to slip by without discipline. these parents convince themselves that their children are not bad.
what is parental monitoring
refers to the parents awareness of their child’s peer associates, free time activities, and physical whereabouts
when is parental monitoring most important
ages 9 and up
what two parental pathology increases risk of problems in children
parental alcoholism and depression
who developed attachment theory
bowlby
what is attachment theory
it states that infants have a strong need to establish close emotional bonds with significant others in their social environments and the nature of this bond determines their quality of social relationships later in life
qualities of a secure attachment
play comfortably in mothers presence, demonstrate curiosity about new environments, are in distress when the mother leaves, and happy when she returns
two types of insecure attachments and their qualities
anxious/ambivalent – becomes insanely distressed and anxious by separation and clings to mother in new environment, hostile when mother returns
avoidant – little distress when parent leaves, withdrawn
Parental monitoring